The practice of mindfulness asks us to notice and allow. Each moment is an opportunity to notice what’s here, allowing it to be here without changing anything, pushing away or avoiding. It is important because it can help us to see what is really here. Things will change, emotions will come and go, but when … Continue reading What Brings You Here?
Perhaps not as elegant as the art of self-compassion, the art of failure is a discipline rich with wisdom and insight. Much of our lives can be spent avoiding failure, but it will find us. The practice of mindfulness let's us practice with failure. We bring our attention to our breath or our body or … Continue reading The Art of Failure
In our last gathering, we explored What Happens When You Can’t Figure Out The Answer? Human beings, and often men in particular, have a tendency to try to solve, fix, and resolve issues and challenges so they “go away.” We want to get it out of there. This is natural. Our natural instinct is to … Continue reading What Happens When You Can’t Figure It Out?
"It" happens. Uninvited and unpleasant circumstances arrive in our life with frightening regularity. We can try to push away our experience, but all too often, our aversion makes it worse. And when we carry around this “dung”, it weighs us down (and, figuratively, makes us smell). If instead, we use it as fertilizer to cultivate … Continue reading Who Ordered This Truckload of Dung?
When it took me twenty minutes to drive around the block to meet my wife and son for the ride home through the “Bomb Cyclone” on Friday afternoon, I knew it was going to be a long journey. Thankfully, my day was done and I didn’t have any responsibilities waiting for me at home. Firing … Continue reading “Don’t Know” Brings Us Together
My teacher Jonathan Foust likes to say that meditation will make you feel better. It will make you feel sadness better, it will make you feel frustration better, and it will make you feel anger better. The practice of mindfulness and meditation brings us to a state where we can feel what we are feeling … Continue reading How To Be Angry
"To give a cow a large spacious meadow is the best way to control him." - Suzuki Roshi I sat in practice. The feeling arose. Somewhere between uncertainty and overwhelm. This feeling didn't bring a lot of content with it. Somewhat ominous but not quite imminent. Like something lurking in the distance while I rested … Continue reading This Lousy World. And Being With What Is.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Victor Frankl In our last gathering, we explored The Space Between How Things Are And How We Want Them To Be. There will always be this space, … Continue reading Hanging Out In The Space
It came to me one day in meditation. I was struggling to put the finishing touches on a lesson introducing mindfulness to a seventh graders. It had to be perfect. I had to be whole, complete. And then a response arose in my mind, “Teach the questions, not the answers.” Speaking of teachers, the poet … Continue reading 10 Questions To Ask Yourself In 2018
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” - Buddha Author Sharon Salzburg, writing in “Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection,” describes how we can experiment with generosity: So often we are taught to arm ourselves … Continue reading An Experiment in Generosity