My teacher Jonathan Foust likes to say that meditation will make you feel better. It will make you feel sadness better, it will make you feel frustration better, and it will make you feel anger better. The practice of mindfulness and meditation brings us to a state where we can feel what we are feeling … Continue reading How To Be Angry
"To give a cow a large spacious meadow is the best way to control him." - Suzuki Roshi I sat in practice. The feeling arose. Somewhere between uncertainty and overwhelm. This feeling didn't bring a lot of content with it. Somewhat ominous but not quite imminent. Like something lurking in the distance while I rested … Continue reading This Lousy World. And Being With What Is.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Victor Frankl In our last gathering, we explored The Space Between How Things Are And How We Want Them To Be. There will always be this space, … Continue reading Hanging Out In The Space
It came to me one day in meditation. I was struggling to put the finishing touches on a lesson introducing mindfulness to a seventh graders. It had to be perfect. I had to be whole, complete. And then a response arose in my mind, “Teach the questions, not the answers.” Speaking of teachers, the poet … Continue reading 10 Questions To Ask Yourself In 2018
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” - Buddha Author Sharon Salzburg, writing in “Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection,” describes how we can experiment with generosity: So often we are taught to arm ourselves … Continue reading An Experiment in Generosity
Powerful research connects generosity to happiness but only if we are thoughtful about it. There are many ways to think of generosity. The great poet & author Maya Angelou wrote, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” … Continue reading The Power of Generosity
Stress can be defined as the space between our expectations and our reality. Our instinct when we see this space is to try make it go away. Somehow fill in the space with overwork, micromanagement or distraction. It may be that we already feel the walls closing in around us or that there is a gaping chasm between us and feeling free. But in reality, this space is small. It is a space of hyper focus and hyper vigilance. Either/or thinking, doubt, judgment, insecurity, anxiety and worry. We have a great opportunity to nourish this unpleasant place by stopping, experiencing and allowing.
"I think we learn the most from imperfect relationships, things like forgiveness and compassion." -Andrea Thompson All relationships are imperfect, including the relationships we have with ourselves. Can we cut ourselves some slack? Give ourselves a break? Or at times, get out of our own way to enjoy the moment, allow ourselves to be open to … Continue reading Coming Back To Ourselves
For me, the guiding question "Does it have heart?" is most resonant of the beautiful questions. I can't remember the last time my to-do list had fewer than 15 things I just needed to do ASAP. They won't all get done. There are different ways to prioritize them: easiest to hardest, smallest to biggest, etc. … Continue reading How To Ask A Beautiful Question
As a teacher, I have two options. I can try to teach the answer or I can try to teach the question. All too often, the "answer" is burdened by my own judgment, opinion, beliefs and experience. Teaching the answer can be limiting because everyone's experience is different. But when I teach the question, infinite … Continue reading Asking the Beautiful Questions